The Reality

by TED WILD

“3 minutes to live 1% happier”

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Reality: Ta不一定比你幸福

tedwild.com  | 2023.3.30

Happy Reality Day! 开始本周3分钟的现实, 1%的快乐 ↓


1个我的领悟

以人生幸福为目标的话,任何人都不一定比其他人更幸福。因为:

(1)人类的幸福是有一个固有水平的,不会随着外界环境的变化而变化。现代人有水电气网手机电脑汽车空调AI更多选择更大的世界,但是你就比古代人更幸福么?小时候你的没钱没车没房没女朋友,但是你就比小时候更幸福么?

(2)没有一个人生活的各个方面都是完美的。你羡慕的人,也在羡慕你生活中的某一方面。

所有获取都有代价。公司老板要操很多心。有钱的人要承担更大风险。有名的人羡慕你能过平淡的生活,不化妆、不被打扰地逛街。当官的人羡慕你能自由离婚、犯错、出国。

你在朋友圈、抖音、公司、街上每天看到的人,都是戴了面具的。

他们幸不幸福,只有他们自己知道。

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1个其他人的领悟

“没有人是完美的,每个人都知道的不够多。原谅他们,然后继续你的生活。”

— Leo Brown


1个问你自己的问题

你有没有过觉得身边的人起跑线是你的终点线,对你全方位碾压的时候?

欢迎回复邮件,咱们聊聊。因为我也有过。

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1个小尝试

看一遍你最好的朋友的朋友圈,然后想一想:

ta发在朋友圈里的这些内容反映了百分之多少ta的真实生活?

记住,这个比例基本上就是你朋友圈里所有人的比例。


你觉得本周这期简报有帮助吗?欢迎回复。

下周见,

Ted Wild


PS: 让你不快乐的原因都 在这里 

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Reality: They are not happier than you

tedwild.com  | 2023.3.30

Happy Reality Day! Here is your weekly dose of reality to help you live 1% happier.


1 Insight From Me

If happiness is the goal in life, then no one is necessarily happier than another, because:

(1) Human happiness has an inherent level and will hardly change with the external environment. Modern people have water, electricity, network, mobile phone, computer, cars, air conditioners, AI, more choices, and more experience, but are you happier than people 500 years ago? When you were a kid, you had no money, no car, no house, and no girlfriend, but are you happier than your child self?

(2) No one’s life is perfect. The person whose life you want also wants part of your life. All things come with a price. The boss of a company has a lot to worry about. Rich people take greater risks. Famous people want a normal life in which they can go shopping without makeup or interruptions. Powerful people carry more responsibilities.

The people you see every day on Instagram, TikTok, in companies, and on the street all wear masks.

Only they know whether they are really happy or not.

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1 Insight From Others

“No one is perfect in this world. Forgive people for not knowing better and move on.”

— Leo Brown


1 Question For Yourself

Have you ever felt that the starting line of the people around you is your finish line, they are crushing you in all ways?

Feel free to reply to the email and let’s talk about it. Because I had it too.

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1 Small Step To Take

Check out the Instagram posts of the people you know the best, then ask yourself:

For what percent do these posts reflect his/her real life? (Life Reflection rate)

Remember: the percentage of this person is basically the percentage of everyone in your Instagram feed.


Do you find this issue of Reality helpful? Leave a reply.

Until next week,

Ted Wild


PS: All the reasons why you are not happy are HERE .


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