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Reality: 输在起跑线很难接受怎么办

tedwild.com  | 2023.4.4

Happy Reality Day! 开始本周3分钟的现实, 1%的快乐 ↓

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❤ 1个我的领悟

不知道你有没有过这种感觉：

“身边这些人咋都学习比我好，长得还比我好看，家里还比我有钱，还唱歌跳舞特长多，还能说会道善交际……”。智商情商，学历经历，专业副业全方位碾压，看不到希望，喘不上气来。

要是再打开手机，更是朋友圈里岁月静好，自己生活水深火热。

你忍不住想望父成龙——“爸妈，你俩为什么不能争气点？”

怎么办呢？这其实是一个大话题，我会在网站上单独讲。这里咱先只谈一点——家境不好是不是就不能生孩子了。

所有人的出身环境都不完美，所有人都曾受到伤害。你父母的父母可能更穷，更没有见识，对他们伤害更大，提供的成长条件更差。

那再说你，你就有足够的经济能力抚养自己的孩子吗？你就知道怎么养自己的孩子，才能让他身体和心理都健康成长，不留心理阴影吗？

不一定吧。

那我宣布你没资格生孩子，你可以接收吗？世界上99%的人都是这个水平，那他们也都没有生孩子的资格了吗？

从家庭出身的角度讲，伤害是一代一代往下传递的。公平就是互相伤害，互相原谅。

接收出身，学会感恩，开心过余生。

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❤ 1个其他人的领悟

你来自哪不重要。重要的是你要去哪。

– Oprah Winfrey

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❤ 1个问你自己的问题

生活的最终目标是幸福，那从幸福的角度讲，那些全方位碾压你的人，就都比你更快乐吗？

记住，你能看到的只是别人生活很小的一部分。

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❤ 1个小尝试

列出5个你可以感恩你父母的点，物质的、精神的，或者教育方式的都行。

记住，幸福不是来自于与别人的比较，而是来自于追求自己的目标。

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你觉得本周这期简报有帮助吗？欢迎回复。

下周见，

Ted Wild

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PS: 让你不快乐的原因都 在这里 

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Reality: How to accept your low starting point

tedwild.com  | 2023.4.4

Happy Reality Day! Here is your weekly dose of reality to help you live 1% happier.

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❤ 1 Insight From Me

Have you have ever felt this way?

“Why do these people around me study better, are prettier, have richer families, have a lot of hobbies and even friends?” They seem to nail everything and have this life things figured out, leaving you feeling hopeless.

Even worse when you open Instagram, in which everyone is enjoying paradise while you are suffering in hot hell.

You can’t help but think – “Mom and Dad, why can’t you be more successful?”

So what to do?

This is actually a big topic, and I will cover it in a dedicated post on my website. For this newsletter, let’s just talk about one thing – whether poor people should have children (This is more of a Chinese problem, of course).

All people grow up in imperfect environment, and all people have been hurt in some way. Your parents’ parents were probably poorer, less informed, did them more harm, and provided worse conditions for their upbringing.

Then let’s talk about you. Are you financially sufficient to raise your own children? Do you know how to raise your child so that he can grow up healthy, both physically and mentally?

Maybe not.

Then I declare that you are not qualified to have children, can you accept it? 99% of the people in the world are basically in the same situation, so are they all not qualified to have children?

From the perspective of family, harm is passed down from generation to generation. Fairness means hurting each other and then forgiving each other.

Accept your background, learn to be grateful, and live happier for the rest of your life.

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❤ 1 Insight From Others

“It doesn’t matter where you come from, it matters where you’re going.”

– Oprah Winfrey

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❤ 1 Question For Yourself

If the ultimate goal of life is happiness, then are those people who crush you in all aspects happier than you?

Remember, what you see is only a small part of other people’s lives.

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❤ 1 Small Step To Take

List 5 things you can thank your parents for, could be material, spiritual, or educational.

Remember, happiness doesn’t come from comparing yourself to others, but from pursuing your own goals.

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Do you find this issue of Reality helpful? Leave a reply.

Until next week,

Ted Wild

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PS: All the reasons why you are not happy are HERE .

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