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Reality: “责任心”其实是借口

在tedwild.com上看  | 2023.6.14 | #14

Happy Reality Day! 你上周过的咋样？希望这3分钟的现实，可以带给你1%的快乐 ↓

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❤ 1个我的领悟

英剧《万物生灵》里的一段故事我一直印象深刻。

男主吉米是个很厉害的年轻兽医，附近十里八乡的人很多都靠农场生活，这些动物就是他们的生计。

但是兽医正做的风生水起时，二战爆发了，镇上在招兵。男主这个人有强烈的责任心，觉得自己必须得去报名参战。但是他老板和女朋友都强烈反对。他老板说的其中一句话是，“你对这里更重要”。

我也认为他不应该参军。因为他自己喜欢做兽医，也做的很好，做兽医能帮助更多人。而上了战场，他只是一个很普通的士兵，可能第一次上战场就挂了，敌人一个没少，而世界上却从此少了一个能拯救一方的好兽医。

每个人来到这个世界上的使命都是不一样的，每个人的天赋是不一样的，每个人对别人创造价值的形式也不应该是一样的。

很多人其实都是在用“责任心”来骗自己。“我本来也有梦想，有我特别喜欢的事情，但是后来结婚了，又有了孩子，也就为他们而活了。人还是要有责任心啊！”

但是如果他们能做自己喜欢的事，做的很好，自己能力强了之后，可以给自己的老婆孩子创造更好的生活条件，让他们活的更好。

你不急着结那个婚，生那个孩子，这个世界并没有损失什么，你现在的老婆自然会找其他人结婚，你生的会是另一个孩子，但是那个孩子会比你现在的孩子更幸福。更重要的是，你自己也会过得更幸福。

不要没有困难，非要创造困难，然后再强行感动自己，还觉得别人也应该为自己的付出感动。

鲁迅只是个写字的，连枪都没碰过，但是他的书影响了全中国几代人，效果比革命来的更猛烈。如果他还是坚持当个医生，那可能一辈子只能救几千个人，但是他通过写书能救几亿人。

你会指着他鼻子说，“周树人你还是不是个男人，人家在那拿手术刀救命，拿刺刀拼杀，你躲在这里拿支笔写字，有没有责任心？”

做最能发挥你价值的事情，因为你其实是在救更多人。

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❤ 1个其他人的领悟

“总有一天你得做你喜欢做的事。做一个你喜欢的工作。每天早上你会从床上跳起来，开心地迎接这一天。如果你继续做一个不喜欢、但是让你的简历看起来不错的工作，那你就是疯了。这不相当于把爱留着到晚年再做吗？”

– Warren Buffet

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❤ 1个小尝试

“责任清单”：

写下你认为你现在必须要付的责任。不管是家里的，感情的，工作的。

然后提醒你自己：更大的影响力是需要积累的。

如果你现在赚100块就给你家里100块，没有自己的积累，那你能给家人的最终可能只是几万块。但如果你先把自己的事业做大，到时候你能给你家里的就是以万为单位，而且你创造的价值能帮助到社会上更多人。

不要把自己现在手里唯一的一只小鸡给出去，还觉得自己很有责任心。要等有了养鸡场，给很多人很多免费的鸡蛋。

你好了，你身边的人才能跟着好。

对别人好的最好方式，是先对自己好。

看完有啥想法没？可以直接回复这个邮件，我会看邮箱里的每一个回复。有其他想法也欢迎随时联系。

下周见，

Ted Wild

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PS: 做一个流氓

PPS：到此一游

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Reality: Responsibility Is Just An Excuse

Read on tedwild.com  | 2023.6.14 | #14

Happy Reality Day! Here is your weekly dose of reality to help you live 1% happier.

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❤ 1 Insight From Me

One plot in the British drama “All Creatures Great and Small” has always stuck in my mind.

James is a great young veterinarian. Many people in the villages live on farms, and these animals are their livelihood.

But just when the veterinarian was doing well, World War II broke out, and the army was recruiting in town. James has a strong sense of responsibility, so he feels that he must join the army and serve the country. But both his boss and his girlfriend strongly objected. One line his boss said was, “You’re more important here.”

I also don’t think he should join the army. Because he likes being a vet, and he is doing well. Being a vet can help more people. But on the battlefield, he was just a very ordinary soldier, and he might have died the first time he went on the battlefield, then no enemy is killed, but the world has lost a good veterinarian who can save a lot of lives.

Everyone’s mission in this world is different, everyone has different talents, and how everyone creates value for others should not be the same either.

Many people are actually using “responsibility” to deceive themselves. “I had dreams and passion, but then I got married and had children, so I lived for them. You gotta be responsible!”

But if they can do what they like and do it well, they can create better living conditions for their families, and let them live better after they become more capable.

The world has nothing to lose if you don’t rush to get married and have that child. Your current wife will find someone else to marry, and you will have another child who will be happier than your current child. More importantly, you will be happier yourself.

Don’t create difficulties for yourself when there were none, then live miserably, and feel that others should also be moved by your efforts.

Do the things that maximize your value, because you are actually saving more people that way.

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❤ 1 Insight From Others

“There comes a time when you ought to start doing what you want. Take a job that you love. You will jump out of bed in the morning. I think you are out of your mind if you keep taking jobs that you don’t like because you think it will look good on your resume. Isn’t that a little like saving up sex for your old age?”

– Warren Buffet

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❤ 1 Small Step To Take

“Responsibility Recheck”:

Write down the responsibilities you think you have now, whether it’s family, relationship, or work.

Then remind yourself that greater influence needs cumulation.

If every time you earn $100 and you give it to your family right away, then what you can give to your family may be only tens of thousands of dollars in the end. But if you expand your business first, what you can give to your family will be 10X or even 100X, and the value you create can help more people in society.

Don’t give away the only chick you have now because you feel you are responsible to someone. Build your chicken farm first, then give a lot of people a lot of free eggs.

The better you are doing, the more people around you can get from you.

The best way to be good to others is to be good to yourself first.

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Until next week,

Ted Wild

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PS: Article：Anxiety: A Practical Guide

PPS：If my mom play Counter Strike

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